Tag Archives: social pressure

Trying to be funny.

I’ve been dismayed to see a lot of uninformed trashing of Christopher Hitchens in the days since he died.  One piece of his writing, Why Women Aren’t Funny, seems to have been latched onto by those under the impression that … Continue reading

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My first heterosexual bar.

I’ve been thinking this week about three pieces of writing.  Each is about a different subject, but they all touch on men’s sexual desire:  Amanda Marcotte’s Buyers and sellers, Julia Serano’s essay Why Nice Guys Finish Last (no link), and … Continue reading

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“Character” and rejection.

If nice guys were actually nice, they wouldn’t have problems getting dates and keeping girlfriends. –  Marle, commenting on Nice Guys, March 5, 1:10p.m. There’s a dinner party anecdote, perhaps apocryphal, that the British philosopher Bertrand Russell was asked why he … Continue reading

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Fat girls.

(Note:  There’s an excellent essay over at Feminist Critics that touches on some of the themes of this post:  Is “Confident” the Male Analogue to “Thin”?) One response I’ve heard to the “nice guy” lament is that there are women … Continue reading

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Amy Chua, the deadhead, and the dutiful daughter.

We all have things we fear, and one of my fears is cancer.  I’m healthy, knock on wood, but I’ve sometimes wondered what it would be like to have a terminal illness, to go through nauseating rounds of chemotherapy and … Continue reading

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Feeling pressured to get laid and be straight.

It seems to be a commonly held belief that straight men are under tremendous pressure to “score” and have sex all the time.  In fact, when people talk about the difficulties that men face, being pressured to get laid is … Continue reading

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