Tag Archives: sexual etiquette

Hitting on women in elevators and subway exits.

By now you may have heard about Rebecca Watson, a speaker at an atheist conference in Dublin, and how she departed from a hotel bar at 4 a.m., headed back to her room, was propositioned in an elevator: “Don’t take … Continue reading

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Asking versus guessing.

A few months back, several bloggers commented about the difference between “asking” cultures and “guessing” cultures.  As the name suggests, “asking” cultures are ones in which you can directly ask for what you want, and “guessing” cultures are ones in … Continue reading

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Madonna/Whore

There are aggressive women who are going to make your dick hard who are fit to raise your children. – Dan Savage On the Madonna/Whore complex: Whenever you’re exasperated by the undesirable behaviors or beliefs of other people, it’s always … Continue reading

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Balloons and bubblegum.

In my post On Schrödinger’s Rapist, I wrote that the “rule’s for men” laid out by the author would be poisonous for some men but not others.  I’d like to expand on this thought, in the context of what has … Continue reading

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Smoking pot with a homophobe.

Several years ago, I received a call from a friend of mine, “Karl.” “Oh man,” he said, “So I smoked some pot with this guy.  And he totally started flipping out.” “Really?  I thought pot was supposed to mellow you … Continue reading

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Kind of hard to avoid.

When I was eighteen, in an Indian summer evening, I went for a walk with a young woman.  We came to a park, and climbed up on a jungle gym, as eighteen year olds will sometimes do.  As I recall, … Continue reading

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Perception, motivation, and touch.

A writer for feministing, Chloe, recently shared an experience she had that made her angry.  She was standing in line at Starbucks, and some guy leaned toward her, put his hand on her arm, and told her, “You’re so beautiful.”  … Continue reading

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