Tag Archives: sexual entitlement

My first heterosexual bar.

I’ve been thinking this week about three pieces of writing.  Each is about a different subject, but they all touch on men’s sexual desire:  Amanda Marcotte’s Buyers and sellers, Julia Serano’s essay Why Nice Guys Finish Last (no link), and … Continue reading

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Nice guys.

(Update:  Amanda Marcotte just wrote a response to this post over at Pandagon, calling me a “megadouchebag.”) It’s difficult to write about the sexual isolation of sensitive men without falling back on clichés.  So I’ll begin this post with a … Continue reading

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Bob never got consent.

It’s hardly an overstatement to say that sexuality is a subject of great concern for many feminists.  Women, so the argument goes, have often been coerced into relationships or sexual acts that leave them feeling unsatisfied at best and, at … Continue reading

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The darker side of sexual entitlement.

Everybody knows there is no fineness or accuracy of suppression; if you hold down one thing you hold down the adjoining. – Saul Bellow, The Adventures of Augie March Hugo Schwyzer wrote a response to my last post about sexual … Continue reading

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Sexual entitlement.

“No matter how much it sucks that a certain person has trouble finding people to have sex with — and yes, it obviously sucks, whether it’s happening to men or older women or fat people or whatever — this problem … Continue reading

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Owing someone the possibility of sex.

Is it ever okay to “expect” your sexual needs will be met by “others?”  Is it ever acceptable to believe it is “reasonable and due” that another person will meet your sexual needs? A woman always has the right to … Continue reading

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Expecting one’s needs to be met by others.

Hugo Schwyzer on sexual ethics: “Making it clear that one doesn’t expect one’s wants to be met by others is a key part of putting other folks at ease.” What’s interesting about this sentence is that the verb “to expect” … Continue reading

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