Tag Archives: sexual confidence

We could be that mistake.

I haven’t seen the movie “Superbad”, but Roger Ebert gave it a thumbs up.  Apparently the plot revolves around high school boys who are trying to get laid, and here’s a seven second clip from the film: Okay, that’s sort … Continue reading

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Trying to be funny.

I’ve been dismayed to see a lot of uninformed trashing of Christopher Hitchens in the days since he died.  One piece of his writing, Why Women Aren’t Funny, seems to have been latched onto by those under the impression that … Continue reading

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“Sexual harassment”.

I remember back when I was eighteen, I was at a campus party.  It was a crowded room, and I saw a young woman… (I’ve noticed, by the way, that several feminists these days – Jaclyn Friedman, Hugo Schwyzer, etc. … Continue reading

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An imaginary conversation with Amanda Marcotte and Steve Buscemi.

In which I imagine what Amanda might say about my nice guys post and her response. (Disclaimer for the literal-minded:  This is fiction, cut out of whole cloth.  Neither Amanda Marcotte nor Mr. Buscemi did or said any of the … Continue reading

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“Because He Liked to Leer At It”

If you’ve seen The Vagina Monologues, you know that Bob, a character in the story, Because He Liked to Look At It, helped the narrator learn to love her vagina.  He did this by sharing with her the pleasure he … Continue reading

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Expecting one’s needs to be met by others.

Hugo Schwyzer on sexual ethics: “Making it clear that one doesn’t expect one’s wants to be met by others is a key part of putting other folks at ease.” What’s interesting about this sentence is that the verb “to expect” … Continue reading

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