Monthly Archives: March 2011

“Character” and rejection.

If nice guys were actually nice, they wouldn’t have problems getting dates and keeping girlfriends. –  Marle, commenting on Nice Guys, March 5, 1:10p.m. There’s a dinner party anecdote, perhaps apocryphal, that the British philosopher Bertrand Russell was asked why he … Continue reading

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Irony.

If you’ve heard of the song “Bitches Ain’t Shit” by rap artist Dr. Dre, you might like the antidote, performed a cappella, in this million-plus-views YouTube performance: [On an historical note – and only vaguely relavent to this post – … Continue reading

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For Daisy Deadhead, who said…

…“Bad boys” DOES NOT equal “socially dominant” and this is the major mistake in your post that turns it into ideological mush, no offense. You constantly conflate “bad boys” and “dominant men” in your post… which is bloody maddening. You … Continue reading

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Ethical pick up artistry and the shit test.

Clarisse Thorn has a couple of interesting posts up this week about “Pick Up Artists.”  An important point she makes is that the pick up artist subculture has a monopoly on effective advice for shy men who want to meet … Continue reading

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Sinning, salvation, and macho cred.

Yesterday, Miriam at feministing flagged  a post about becoming a black male feminist. The author, Byron Hurt: As I grew older and got into my own relationships with girls and women, I sometimes behaved as I saw my father behave. I, … Continue reading

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“Being Silenced” vs. “Refusing to Talk”

I think cissexual het men have largely ceded the field of talking about male sexuality… To refuse to talk about it, though, is to be a prisoner of the privilege. – Thomas Millar, Yes Means Yes Blog, Things (Cis- Het-) … Continue reading

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Masturbation and teenage sex.

Mark Regnerus, a sociologist at the University of Texas at Austin, is a conservative evangelical Christian who believes that sex outside of wedlock is a sacrilege.  (Sacrilege:  “Desecration, profanation, misuse, or theft of something sacred.”  American Heritage Dictionary, 4th Ed.)  … Continue reading

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