Tag Archives: social pressure

My first heterosexual bar.

Posted on September 4, 2011 by

I’ve been thinking this week about three pieces of writing.  Each is about a different subject, but they all touch on men’s sexual desire:  Amanda Marcotte’s Buyers and sellers, Julia Serano’s essay Why Nice Guys Finish Last (no link), and … Continue reading →

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“Character” and rejection.

Posted on March 31, 2011 by

If nice guys were actually nice, they wouldn’t have problems getting dates and keeping girlfriends. -  Marle, commenting on Nice Guys, March 5, 1:10p.m. There’s a dinner party anecdote, perhaps apocryphal, that the British philosopher Bertrand Russell was asked why he … Continue reading →

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Fat girls.

Posted on March 8, 2011 by

(Note:  There’s an excellent essay over at Feminist Critics that touches on some of the themes of this post:  Is “Confident” the Male Analogue to “Thin”?) One response I’ve heard to the “nice guy” lament is that there are women … Continue reading →

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Feeling pressured to get laid and be straight.

Posted on November 23, 2010 by

It seems to be a commonly held belief that straight men are under tremendous pressure to “score” and have sex all the time.  In fact, when people talk about the difficulties that men face, being pressured to get laid is … Continue reading →

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