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Tag Archives: sexual etiquette
Asking versus guessing.
A few months back, several bloggers commented about the difference between “asking” cultures and “guessing” cultures. As the name suggests, “asking” cultures are ones in which you can directly ask for what you want, and “guessing” cultures are ones in … Continue reading
Madonna/Whore
There are aggressive women who are going to make your dick hard who are fit to raise your children. – Dan Savage On the Madonna/Whore complex: I believe that whenever you’re looking at undesirable behavior or beliefs, it’s alway important … Continue reading
Balloons and bubblegum.
In my post On Schrödinger’s Rapist, I wrote that the “rule’s for men” laid out by the author would be poisonous for some men but not others. I’d like to expand on this thought, in the context of what has … Continue reading
Smoking pot with a homophobe.
Several years ago, I received a call from a friend of mine, “Karl.” “Oh man,” he said, “So I smoked some pot with this guy. And he totally started flipping out.” “Really? I thought pot was supposed to mellow you … Continue reading
Kind of hard to avoid.
When I was eighteen, in an Indian summer evening, I went for a walk with a young woman. We came to a park, and climbed up on a jungle gym, as eighteen year olds will sometimes do. As I recall, … Continue reading
Perception, motivation, and touch.
A writer for feministing, Chloe, recently shared an experience she had that made her angry. She was standing in line at Starbucks, and some guy leaned toward her, put his hand on her arm, and told her, “You’re so beautiful.” … Continue reading
On deciding not to talk to a woman.
“I promise you, guys, you will not miss out on meeting “the one” by erring on the side of caution here. You will still talk to loads and loads of women in your lives, some of whom will be both … Continue reading
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On “Schrödinger’s Rapist”
Last year, “Phaedra Starling,” a guest-blogger on the now-inactive “Shapely Prose,” penned an open letter entitled Schrödinger’s Rapist. I found a few responses on the web. For example, here, here, here, here, and here. Yet I didn’t find any response that … Continue reading
