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My first heterosexual bar.
I’ve been thinking this week about three pieces of writing. Each is about a different subject, but they all touch on men’s sexual desire: Amanda Marcotte’s Buyers and sellers, Julia Serano’s essay Why Nice Guys Finish Last (no link), and … Continue reading
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Tagged homosexuality, pick-up artists, sex roles, sexual entitlement, social pressure
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Nice guys.
(Update: Amanda Marcotte just wrote a response to this post over at Pandagon, calling me a “megadouchebag.”) It’s difficult to write about the sexual isolation of sensitive men without falling back on clichés. So I’ll begin this post with a … Continue reading
The darker side of sexual entitlement.
Everybody knows there is no fineness or accuracy of suppression; if you hold down one thing you hold down the adjoining. – Saul Bellow, The Adventures of Augie March Hugo Schwyzer wrote a response to my last post about sexual … Continue reading
Sexual entitlement.
“No matter how much it sucks that a certain person has trouble finding people to have sex with — and yes, it obviously sucks, whether it’s happening to men or older women or fat people or whatever — this problem … Continue reading
Owing someone the possibility of sex.
Is it ever okay to “expect” your sexual needs will be met by “others?” Is it ever acceptable to believe it is “reasonable and due” that another person will meet your sexual needs? A woman always has the right to … Continue reading
Expecting one’s needs to be met by others.
Hugo Schwyzer on sexual ethics: “Making it clear that one doesn’t expect one’s wants to be met by others is a key part of putting other folks at ease.” What’s interesting about this sentence is that the verb “to expect” … Continue reading
The obnoxiousness of the entitlement myth.
A comment by “Omega” on hugoschwyzer.net: The vast majority of people who approach others are men, and 9 out of ten times someone is rejected, that person is male. Many people are approached, and since rejection is common, obviously there … Continue reading
The Monica Lewinsky scandal, 15 years later.
An alternate history: Monica Lewinsky buys a newspaper at a downtown kiosk. She chats with a young man working there, and she can do that because she is her own person. He’s a community college student, and likes art and … Continue reading
