Tag Archives: sexual confidence

An imaginary conversation with Amanda Marcotte and Steve Buscemi.

Posted on April 3, 2011 by

In which I imagine what Amanda might say about my nice guys post and her response. (Disclaimer for the literal-minded:  This is fiction, cut out of whole cloth.  Neither Amanda Marcotte nor Mr. Buscemi did or said any of the … Continue reading →

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“Because He Liked to Leer At It”

Posted on January 27, 2011 by

If you’ve seen The Vagina Monologues, you know that Bob, a character in the story, Because He Liked to Look At It, helped the narrator learn to love her vagina.  He did this by sharing with her the pleasure he … Continue reading →

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Terrible questions.

Posted on November 30, 2010 by

You may have heard about Catherine Comins, the former dean of student life at Vassar, who once said that men unjustly accused of rape could gain from the experience: They have a lot of pain, but it is not a … Continue reading →

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Expecting one’s needs to be met by others.

Posted on November 4, 2010 by

Hugo Schwyzer on sexual ethics: “Making it clear that one doesn’t expect one’s wants to be met by others is a key part of putting other folks at ease.” What’s interesting about this sentence is that the verb “to expect” … Continue reading →

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