Here’s an academic talking about shyness and male sexuality. Some of my readers may find it boring. Nothing against Dr. Gilmartin, whom I know nothing about, it’s just that the subject of involuntarily celibate men, I think, can summon people’s inner Bill Hicks - “who the hell invited Mr. Gloom-and-Doom? Get the hell out of here!”
There’s an “ick” factor to the whole subject. I’ve made some allusions to gay rights throughout this blog, but of course the analogy is imperfect. The difficulties homosexuals have faced have been entirely caused by society’s homophobia; the involuntarily celibate man is always in his predicament in part because of his own flaws and shortcomings. So why not stop painting the blogosphere with a can full of ick and share my thoughts instead with a psychiatrist? Because the experiences of the sexually isolated man reveal something about the sexual culture, and in particular male sexuality.