Monthly Archives: March 2011

“Character” and rejection.

Posted on March 31, 2011 by

If nice guys were actually nice, they wouldn’t have problems getting dates and keeping girlfriends. -  Marle, commenting on Nice Guys, March 5, 1:10p.m. There’s a dinner party anecdote, perhaps apocryphal, that the British philosopher Bertrand Russell was asked why he … Continue reading →

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Irony.

Posted on March 30, 2011 by

If you’ve heard of the song “Bitches Ain’t Shit” by rap artist Dr. Dre, you might like the antidote, performed a cappella, in this million-plus-views YouTube performance: [On an historical note, it’s amusing to think of the photo above as … Continue reading →

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For Daisy Deadhead, who said…

Posted on March 29, 2011 by

…“Bad boys” DOES NOT equal “socially dominant” and this is the major mistake in your post that turns it into ideological mush, no offense. You constantly conflate “bad boys” and “dominant men” in your post… which is bloody maddening. You … Continue reading →

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Ethical pick up artistry and the shit test.

Posted on March 27, 2011 by

Clarisse Thorn has a couple of interesting posts up this week about “Pick Up Artists.”  An important point she makes is that the pick up artist subculture has a monopoly on effective advice for shy men who want to meet … Continue reading →

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Sinning, salvation, and macho cred.

Posted on March 19, 2011 by

Yesterday, Miriam at feministing flagged  a post about becoming a black male feminist. The author, Byron Hurt: As I grew older and got into my own relationships with girls and women, I sometimes behaved as I saw my father behave. I, … Continue reading →

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“Being Silenced” vs. “Refusing to Talk”

Posted on March 16, 2011 by

I think cissexual het men have largely ceded the field of talking about male sexuality… To refuse to talk about it, though, is to be a prisoner of the privilege. – Thomas Millar, Yes Means Yes Blog, Things (Cis- Het-) … Continue reading →

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Masturbation and teenage sex.

Posted on March 10, 2011 by

Mark Regnerus, a sociologist at the University of Texas at Austin, is a conservative evangelical Christian who believes that sex outside of wedlock is a sacrilege.  (Sacrilege:  “Desecration, profanation, misuse, or theft of something sacred.”  American Heritage Dictionary, 4th Ed.)  … Continue reading →

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Fat girls.

Posted on March 8, 2011 by

(Note:  There’s an excellent essay over at Feminist Critics that touches on some of the themes of this post:  Is “Confident” the Male Analogue to “Thin”?) One response I’ve heard to the “nice guy” lament is that there are women … Continue reading →

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Nice guys.

Posted on March 3, 2011 by

(Update:  Amanda Marcotte just wrote a response to this post over at Pandagon, calling me a “megadouchebag.”) It’s difficult to write about the sexual isolation of sensitive men without falling back on clichés.  So I’ll begin this post with a … Continue reading →

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