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Monthly Archives: November 2010
Terrible questions.
You may have heard about Catherine Comins, the former dean of student life at Vassar, who once said that men unjustly accused of rape could gain from the experience: They have a lot of pain, but it is not a … Continue reading
Worse than not helpful: Normalizing rape.
In the post before last, I said that Edmonton’s “Don’t Be That Guy” anti-rape campaign would not dissuade potential rapists, but would communicate a negative message about male sexuality. And there’s another negative effect that a campaign like this may have, … Continue reading
Lost book.
I was looking for an old copy of Nietzsche’s “Beyond Good and Evil,” which I thought I had somewhere. There was a passage I was going to post, because it said something that resonated with me. But I can’t remember … Continue reading
Somewhat worse than not helpful.
Chloe at Feministing recently wrote about the latest anti-rape social marketing campaign in Edmonton, Alberta, which seeks to discourage rape with messages aimed at men, saying “Don’t Be That Guy.” She heralded this campaign as one that targeted perpetrators, rather … Continue reading
Feeling pressured to get laid and be straight.
It seems to be a commonly held belief that straight men are under tremendous pressure to “score” and have sex all the time. In fact, when people talk about the difficulties that men face, being pressured to get laid is … Continue reading
Good guys don’t need to “hold themselves accountable.”
“Good guys hold themselves and other men accountable, in public and in private. That’s a high standard to meet, particularly for the young. But it’s only by meeting that standard that men can help to change the culture.” – Hugo … Continue reading
Sex, dogs, and science.
Susan Walsh at “Hooking Up Smart” recently wrote about a study on adolescent dating, Terms of Endearment. According to the study, many girls will endure sex they don’t want to find relationships, and boys will endure relationships to find sex. … Continue reading
“Fight Club” and “Stiffed”
There’s a movie that came out called “Fight Club,” which I saw, but don’t remember if I sat through it all or not. There was something about them taking a piece of corporate sculpture and removing it, and there was … Continue reading
Vietnam vets.
Back when I was ten, my parents had a small party at our house. One of the guests was a man who had been to Vietnam. At the time, the Vietnam war was a recent memory for most people, and … Continue reading
Balloons and bubblegum.
In my post On Schrödinger’s Rapist, I wrote that the “rule’s for men” laid out by the author would be poisonous for some men but not others. I’d like to expand on this thought, in the context of what has … Continue reading
